He also has a preference for girls in their EARLY 20's.
It's this love for all things young and stupid that motivated him to call me this particular Saturday night. "Kate, a friend of mine is spinning tonight at Club XYZ..." (I don't even remember the name of the club... ) "..and we've go to be there. Throw on some heels and lets go, I need a dancing partner!"
It started off a good night. We walked past the line outside, right to the door and entered with ease. We got our drinks, we did a quick circle of the club to check out our prey/competition and then got to shakin' it on the dance floor.
We were on fire. I was hot. He was hot. People obviously wanted to either be us or be with us.
A few house mixes in, I got my swagger on and headed towards the restroom. Business accomplished, I stepped up to the sink and checked my makeup in the mirror while I washed my hands. It was while my eyes moved from my heavily glossed lips to my strategically smudged eyeliner and up to my hair that it happened.
I saw it.
Right there. Glaring back at me. Pointing its nasty little metaphorical finger at me and silently screaming right into my shocked face, 'WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU, YOU OLD HAG?!?!? WHEN DID SATURDAY NIGHT BECOME SENIORS' NIGHT AT THIS PLACE? WHO ARE YOU KIDDING, GRANDMA?"
A gray hair.
Just one. Sticking straight out of the top of my head. I know. Horrifying.
Suddenly, the reality of the situation hit me. I was 29 years old (well, 28 at the time. But, damn it, I'm 29 now and holy crap, that sounds old!). In club years I think that made me, like, 63 years old or something.
As I glanced around at the other girls in the restroom, one adjusting her push-up bra, another discretely wiping some suspicious powder from her nose (just say NO to the nose candy, sister!), I came back to stare at my reflection in the mirror.
Walking back out to the dance floor among the 21 year old girls, wobbling around in their too-high heels like Bambi first learning to walk, the list of things I was now too old to do started forming in my head.
Item #1: Sequins and Body Glitter.
Oh, the sadness. No sequins? No body glitter? But... but... but... how will I sparkle? How will I shine?
Item #2: Drinking on a Week Night
There was a time when energy was abundant. The Man couldn't get me down. It was Tuesday night? Lets do it up big! We're young! We're alive! Don't forget to dab on a little glitter! Let's gooooooooo! Carpe Diem and all that jazz!
But this is what Tuesday night looks like at 29 years old:
Item #3: Watching MTV
Wait! Hold on a second. Who am I kidding? I love bad MTV... Jersey Shore? Teen Mom? Real World/Road Rules Challenge?!?! Uh, YES, PLEASE!
Okay, so scratch that one... no one is ever too old for a little Snooki.
Item #4: Shopping at Obnoxious Retails Stores Like Abercrombie, Forever 21, Urban Outfitters or Hollister
I mean, seriously: WHY IS IT SO FUCKING LOUD!?!?!?!? And dark. And crowded? And how about some customer service over here? Gawd, kids these days... what is up with these G-Damn HIPSTERS!!! Why is the cool new style to look like you bought all your clothing at Goodwill. Why does everyone dress and look as awkward as I did in my 3rd grade picture?
The list kept growing, but just as I started to lose hope and mourn the death of my youth, I realized there are some things we will NEVER out grow:
Like THEME PARTIES! White trash, 80's, wigs, ugly holiday sweaters... you suggest it, I've got the perfect outfit!
Or a little Mario Kart action.
Or walking into a bar with your girls and making sure you're the center of attention.
Or lip gloss.
Or singing along to 'Baby' by Justin Bieber... come on, it's a catchy tune! No judgements!!!
Or knowing yourself well enough to have confidence in your words, steps and person.
Or my dream to someday be Britney Spears!!!
So maybe it's not as bad as I'd feared. You can still rock a lot of fun at 29... and maybe even sneak in a few well-placed sequins if you're lucky.
***UPDATE**** Just as I was getting ready to post this entry, my friend Katie emailed me.
Subject Line: Is this too much for my Halloween Costume?
Inside the email was the picture of Britney and Snake that I'd used in this blog. This makes my heart happy for many reasons but mainly b/c it mixes three of the major loves of my life into one big, squishy ball of happiness - costumes, girlfriends and Britney Spears. See? Life at 29 is pretty good! And Katie, I totally give you my blessing for Brit-Brit thisHalloween! ;)